What is Necessary to be Happy?
Op-ed by TheWiseOldFart
It’s easy to remember the difficult, and sad times in our
life. Why is it so hard to remember when we were truly happy? Let me begin with
an irrefutable fact: if you spend hours each day on social media, you will
never be truly happy. Social media stresses the importance of wealth, fame,
power, and acceptance into a level of society which is unrealistic. Your life
will lack fulfillment if your only goal in life is to obtain material things.
Let’s make time for a little introspection. Try very hard to
remember a time you wished would last forever. Maybe it was the first time you
knew you could ride a bike. Could it have been the first time you played
baseball, or basketball? It could have been the first time you were kissed by a
boy or girl, or danced with someone who you were sure would become the love of
your life.
We remember our failures and rejections, but not the
successes and the joy of our first love.
One of my favorite axioms was written for those of us who
were seeking a career. “If you love what you do, you will never work a day in
your life.” This can be applied to everything. Simple things, like a walk along
a beach, or the first time you skied down a bunny slope resulted in joy money
can’t buy.
I challenge each of you to find at least one moment in each
day that brought you true happiness. Ignore the “musts,” the rules, and the
little difficulties you are required to face, and focus on that one moment. And
don’t forget it. Keep it in your memory, close to your heart.
At the age of 77, I have a bit of an advantage. Big events
which made me happy like the birth of my children, finding the love of my life
31 years ago, and buying my first and only home brought great joy. However
other, much smaller things made me smile and have given me that good feeling as
well. Some of these happen every day, but when I was young I failed to
understand their importance.
Pleasure, challenge, and meaning are the elements which make
life worthwhile, and create feelings of happiness. Physical pleasure can result
from a relationship with a loved one, foods which are unique to each
individual, but also include physical exertion from exercise or participating
in sports. Personally, most of this no longer exists for a man closer to 80
than 70.
Challenges face us every day. We have a choice. We can
accept challenges with an attitude that solving problems is a basic and
important part of living, or we can find fear in the unknown. Attitude becomes everything.
Having meaning in life is complicated. Questions such as
“what is the meaning of life” are universal. There is no single answer. This is
why defining happiness is extremely difficult because it is very different for
every individual.
The problem is that we focus on the negative, rarely the
positive. Pain is easier to remember than pleasure.
Change your attitude and focus on the little things which bring
joy to your life. You will be renewed.
Op-ed by James Turnage
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